When I am in conversation, I have the tendency to explain a concept in a long winded way. I strongly admire my husband for his ability to say few words and hit the nail on the head. I believe it is because he is good with words. Learning a new word that defines a whole concept and being able to explain your thoughts is where it’s at. The latest simple word I’ve learned fully (I kinda knew what it was before), is the term being grounded. As an adjective, it describes a person who makes good decisions and does not say or do dumb things. I can imagine everyone would love to be “grounded.” This has been my little mission for a while now. I thought I would share my thoughts on how grounding yourself for more can transform your life!
Since the early spring, I’ve come to really appreciate the yoga experience. It slows me down, allows me to see my needs, and physically improves my strength. If you know me personally, or see me on a daily basis, you’ll know that I have become a huge advocate with the practice. Just recently, I experienced a beautiful moment while in class with our yoga instructor, Abby. I was reaching my hands out and up toward the ceiling, grabbing at the air in a strong stretch. Abby began quoting from one of her favorite authors about belonging and then went on to use a word we’ve heard many times before, expand. It immediately took my mind to this favorite section in scripture, Isaiah 54.
Enlarge the place of your tent,
and let them stretch out the curtain of your dwellings;
do not spare;
lengthen your cords,
and strengthen your stakes.
For you shall expand to the right and to the left,
and your descendants will inherit the nations,
and make the desolate cities inhabited.
Do not fear;
neither be disgraced,
for you will not be put to shame;
for you will forget the shame of your youth,
and will not remember the reproach of your widowhood anymore.
I think that God works in more ways than we give Him credit. When I read scripture, I don’t always have ah-ha moments. I trudge along, asking His Spirit to fill me and bring to mind knowledge and understanding. Leaving myself open to His presence outside of devotions, is where I find He speaks to me the most. If I hadn’t filled my mind with Isaiah 54, I wouldn’t have had this moment.
For months I’d been learning to ground myself. I was still transitioning from our move last year and also figuring out how to balance my emotional health. It made me face the grounding. I had none and I wanted to get to the point where I could stand firm in who I was and what I stood for. It was a hard time figuring it out, especially as a 34 year old. Those teenage years are there for a reason folks, let ‘em be. Needless to say, my confidence levels had been a bit tipsy. I’d been noticing my confidence getting stronger, but not by how much. When I got home, I went back to Isaiah 54 to refresh my mind. I was inspired.
God impressed upon my heart that I was not only grounded, He wanted me to expand my territory and take more in. It was time to stretch myself. Whether that was with people, new adventures, or taking a new step in strengthening myself physically. We start out just trying to figure out who we are, but end up not taking it anywhere because of fear. Knowing ourselves is safe, but going any further? Yikes. Grounding is so important but it was meant for more. With God I’ve found that I am actually thrilled at the opportunity to make new friends who have more differences than not, and actually LOVE. The real kind that expects nothing, discriminates no one, and does not fail.
Grounding yourself for more is really just preparing you for an experience with Christ. For me, my interior is built on Him, which is a whole other conversation. Walking side by side, facing challenges, and meeting people where they are, with an open heart, is how we commune.
You should belong first in your own interiority. If you belong there, and if you are in rhythm with yourself and connected to that deep, unique source within, then you will never be vulnerable when your outside belonging is qualified, relativized, or taken away. You will still be able to stand on your own ground, the ground of your soul, where you are not a tenant, where you are at home. - John O’Donoghue